Random Ramblings

If being nice and CARING about some one you like/love a mistake?I've been told that jealousy and over protectiveness arise out of it and make life miserable. The point is , how do you find that your life is miserable if you are happy with the way it is?

Demanding and asking for something from you can be taxing, especially if the priorities have changed for you and you have moved on.
But getting that person understand and fit in the current scheme of things is probably the toughest part of it all. Because when you were shuffling your needs, the person seems to be in the same state you left him/her.

duality of love!

Strange are the ways of human life and stranger, their lives are.. One seeks happiness and joy in the most consumed resource of life- Love. But the conquest of love is never ending. There are constant needs which need to be attended to- Ever changing.What do you get and where do you get , is a very good question. Only that there is no answer to it.

In trying to cope up with the needs, one tends to follow a pattern -intricate and delicate. What they don't realise is , while the pattern was forming, the need has morphed into something completely different than what it was. They are so taken in by the fulfilment of the need that they don't see it for what it is now. That simple ignorance on their part costs them dear and voids them of the resource they are drawing from. But again, what they don't realise is that the resource is still useful, albeit in a different way, because once a resource, it always is. Only the way you draw from it, changes.

It takes a while to look at it from a different perspective and see it , for what it is , but one sure does get to that point, sooner or later.

Sid woke up 'em all!

Life is tricky and unexpectable. The course of your life is destined by many a factors beside You . For most of the people , it is an experience. Neither does it ignite passion to learn and get better at nor do they try to get the hang of things deciding their fate/destiny, the way they perceive it .


A coming of age movie was never so fun, never so fluid. Especially the one mouthing the words, BE A MAN, is a grown child.

The movie is a showcase of Sid's journey from a boy to Man. But what works here for Sid is that fact that all his relationships are honest and simple .


Keeping relationships simple is no easy task, which Sid seems to have an uncanny ability for, He is a messed up kid with a amazing assortment of relationships, which he breezes through and in that process,warms up to everyone. His friends understand what their place in his life and they are accepting of the fact that though they mean so much to him, they are still dispensable. His mother loves him dearly, but never is interfering. His father is very accomodating and lures him to work with a Porsche!

Interestingly, he is vocal enough to get people he cares about,tries them to get to understand his thoughts and add reason to his approach in life. When he cannot get them to understand, he gladly lets them go get their thinking caps .

He makes Aisha understand the difference between what she wants and what she needs, in a very unconventional way.He always has liked Aisha, but he is not sure if there is chance of a different relationship than friendship.He's happy to be with her and for him, that's what matters. Doesn't expect anything in return for what he does, but feels disappointed when she doesn't notice his achievement of making an omelette for her.


Lakshmi and Rishi are the other two important people in his life. Yet, does not let go off his ego and talk to Rishi even after realising the fact that it was not Rishi's Choice to PASS the exam. :) Is miffed at Lakshmi as he thinks that she cannot relate to a failure like him. Feels sorry that she fails in the test to stick to her diet plan and actually sympathizes.

Meow Meow..

Always wondered why a woman is always compared to a Cat, if she has a carefree attitude ,witty and attractive. And now i am flabbergasted at a song which calls a MAN , a cat without mustache , trying to steal a healthy fish(READ WOMAN). I have seen many comparisions in the past, but this tops them all.

I can't even get into discussing the second line as i find it obscene to mention it. Heights of objectification , i say!!

A Married Conversation

She:.... Splurges on jackets of all colours.. He has a lot of jackets,Branded ones at that. Now he went crazy and bought a saffron jacket. Just imagine , a SAFFRON Jacket... this guy has lost his brains.. He spends money on all worthless things like gadgets,which even dont have a resale value.Every three months he buys a new mobile phone, god knows what happens to the older phone .He earns 50k a month and saves about 10K a month. The Rest is all spent on frivolous things. My MIL(mother in law) rants about how he is not saving money for the future...(If i had married a guy like that, i wouldn't eve have to work. He would have taken care of my cosmetic bills and the beauty parlour bills without blinking a eye ball, hmmmph.. all i am stuck with, is this boring, stingy Idiot who has nothing on his mind except saving.. WTF! he even checks how many shades of nail enamel i have and tells me " u already hv dat shade whenever i want 2 buy one )

He: Ask your MIL to get him married off. he would then get tied DOWN and would realise the necessity of saving( Thats what my Mom did when she thought i was being irresponsible).And best way to make him start saving it is by getting him to live with his parents after he gets married.He would understand the needs faster and better.(My wife picked my brains till they bled, till i bought a place(on EMI, of course) just for two-cosy, comfortable and stylish as her MIL wouldn't approve of fabindia stuff to be draped at the old place.)

Ms. Thunder Thighs

I call her Ms.Thunder thighs.. She has bright big eyes. .Playful and wistful..
Long Long hair. Smelling nice nice nice...
Twirls it around and twists it into a bun while talking animatedly.. Unleashes them and decides that they are better knotted.

My gaze shifts restless all across the cafe , trying to catch glances of people- envious, jealous and some, longing. The woman holding the counter keeps glancing when ever she can, while she takes the orders of a noisy couple trying to keep their 5 yr old daughter busy. The college kid in the table across stares at her as if he's paying utmost to her beauty .

And here she sits, a Venus of a girl eating roasted brown bread sandwich just opposite to me, trying to make me spurt out things i would never tell her or any one otherwise.

The reader

You know some one or you think you know some one closely, hold them dear and cannot stand to think that there are certain facets you never knew. What would you do?

Would you condemn them to a fate of delusion and despair for the only reason that YOU never understood the reason behind YOU not getting to know what lies beneath?

Would you never forgive them for a mistake/blunder they were responsible for, for the simple reasoning they had about it, given the circumstances and his/her capability to guage and react to the circumstances?

Would you hold a grudge against them for that single act of what you think of as wrong doing, refusing to see it from his/her point of view and judge them based on that act rather than how that person made you feel ?

Or Would you side with him/her and let them know that you disapprove the act but nonetheless support him/her because he/she acted the way he/she did ,because of their perception at that point.

Would you be ever able to explain the fine nuances of the essence of your relationship , how varied and changed it might have ,over the time?

Simply put would you be able to let them know that you love them for what they are and where they come from?

A nation doomed

Srilanka.. The name associated with peace,war, and refugees .
Land of sordid tales of misery,inhumanity,irony,dread and fear.

Is the hatred so deep that a small child is denied a glass of water just because he is sinhalese?

Yes you read it right.. When the whole world is focussing on Tamil people in Srilanka, i want to take the mantle of driving problems faced by Sinhalese people in their own land and under their OWN rulers.

Another loss and a gain....

There is a thin line between hope and despair . i walk that thin line. I decide which side to take.

Hope lures me to wage wars against despair
And the wars waged against despair end up being lost.

Clouds and Shapes

On a bright sunny day, i saw white clouds in myraid shapes .. Abstract , figurative ..

Found elephants and some chariots with eagles and other birds sprinkled in between..

And my mind is like a door ajar.. Thoughts gushing through the ajar mind..

Like wind which blows in all the directions..

Sometimes, the door makes squeaking noises and sometimes it remains still..

Thoughts make me happy sometimes and sad sometimes.

Cant close this door nor can i shut out the thoughts..

They will remain ajar. forever..